THE POWER OF "NO".

This theme has been touched in other posts already but never in detail. When we ascend we access higher levels of consciousness, which means that we begin to change the perception we have of ourselves. We begin to be more and more self-conscious, more aware of the being we are in this body. We begin to do amazing things and we tap into our awesomeness. In other words we become authentic, and that is the secret to be free. Being you, with no apologize, without asking if it is ok. For this reason, many beings around us, are super attracted to our light. It's normal, we are here to shine and inspire people, not to be the center of the attention. So many beings are drown to us because they are seeking themselves as well. Problems begin when who comes into our field is still unaware or asleep. When you are living in a lower frequency, life can be an hell, we have all been there. In that state of being, and even when things are working for you, if you are unconscious you are going to behave, obviously, in unconscious ways. That is why many people attracted by your light want to steal it; they see only lack into their life and, since they are asleep, they do not know how to fill that void so they fill it with the energy of other beings. They begin to act as emotional vampires, constantly in need of the validation and approval of others. They will do whatever they can to bring you down with them because they see themselves as small, little, powerless and can not accept you as the brilliant being you are. They see your greatness and can not see the fact that is their greatness they are seeing mirrored in you.

The great message that echoed through the ages is "I am what/who you are, what I do, you can do it too." When we don't pay attention to the whole message, we reinterpret it into something like "I am this and only I can do this", we think that the other is better than us, it's a saint or some superior being and that is unacceptable for the ego. If we compare ourselves only to us, this can never happen. "Who you think you are?" That is the immediate reaction: rejection. An attempt to protect reality for how we know it, because someone or something is perceived as a threat to our belief system. That threat shook the foundations of our reality. No one can accept that someone is "more saint than you", which is a direct consequence of the 3D thinking way, the separation. That is why we end up crucifying people. We never get the whole message and we begin to act in manipulative and controlling ways toward others. This is to understand others and us, our habits, what we need to improve, not to judge. We all have this behaviors to a certain degree. Once you really got this you can clearly see that how a being behaves toward others is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.

When you are in a space with someone that has a lower frequency, things can become tough. The lower vibration is always stronger maning that it will pull you down into that hell ONLY IF you give it permission. Whenever you are giving your attention -whatever you focus on grows- to that being, your life force begins to be sucked away from your body! When you talk to them, when you try to explain yourself, when you want their approval you will ALWAYS at least lower your frequency, and in the majority of the cases, you will fall into self-sabotaging mechanisms, especially when you feel responsible for the emotional state of the other, or when you can not accept that someone can not accept your greatness. You light. You.

Things can only change when you say the magical word. "NO." We all think that is a bad word, something that is not nice to say, we avoid it. There is a program in the matrix system that says "always put others first" so that "you can be considered a good person." No way! We have to learn to put ourselves first. This is not egoism, is self love. If you are in an environment that is detrimental for you and you keep yourself there, because you are doing that for someone else, you are not loving yourself. When you keep yourself stuck into a situation or in a relationship, and you do it for another, you are not loving yourself. Your friend calls you and asks you to go out with him, you are tired and you only want to stay home. But, since you don't want to hurt others, you hurt yourself, because you don't want to say that word, right? "Yes, ok, let's go out and have some fun." You see? When you want to say NO, say NO. Saying no to what brings you down, is saying yes to you. No and yes are the same. We only have to learn to use this word, without guilt, because we don't intend to harm anyone, we only want to protect our space and we are not responsible for other people reaction. I am not speaking of rejection here. You are around someone that is judging you, acting in unconscious ways, they are not "cruel", that is just a word we use to label their unconscious behaviors, don't label but DO NOT justify them. Understand and say, "NO, thank you."

"I know where you want to take me and I do not want to go there." In this way the higher frequency can hold it's space. The lower one has power untill we give it. When people are suffering, they do all kind of crazy things and that is a cry for help. Taking on you their pain is not the solution for you, nor for the other. It doesn't serve anything! The only way to help is to stop to give that person it's favorite food: your energy! Keep your vibe high. The solution is always self love. Choose yourself. You are not, never, responsible for the emotional state of another, only for your own.

Be mindful of who you are inviting in your energy field, do not invite who makes you feel bad. Say yes to you by saying  "NO". Once I have read that no is a word of power, and that is absolutely true. When we do this, believing in our power, without blaming others, we instantly neutralize the lower frequency and we take back all our life force."NO", when used to protect our boundaries, is a word of love.

Michele Cornacchia.

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